James, the marriage counselor

James 1:19  "My dear brothers, take note of this: everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry."

Yesterday was mine and Sara's wedding anniversary.  As we talked the night before, we were both able to say in all honesty that we still love each other the same as we did on our wedding day, and we are both still where we want to be.  We stated the goal of being able to say that on every anniversary we celebrate.

James gives great advice not only for living as an effective Christian, but much of what he says could be found in a manual on creating an effective marriage.  Being quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry are key components to having effective interpersonal relationships.  We have no more important interpersonal relationship in our lives than the one we have with our spouse. 

It is easy to see how practicing these actions can improve a marriage.  I've learned that Sara, like most women, wants to feel heard, understood and validated.  That requires me to listen without immediately jumping in with a solution to a problem.  And I certainly don't accomplish the goal of validating her feelings if I become angry. 

This is valuable advice to carry into the world, but even more valuable when practiced at home.